Why is it that choices can be so hard to make for many of us? When it comes to making choices we can freeze up like a deer in headlights. This happens especially when it involves relationships, careers or choices that involve money. The more weight a choice carries, the heavier it feels.
In tarot readings involving a choice to be made, we always look at the most likely outcome of each choice and what the effects of these choices could be. With clients as well as myself, it can still be hard for us to make the choice with the information right in front of us.
Fear is the tie that binds us from choice. We fear change. We fear the mystery and unknown of the new. Fear keeps us stuck in one place, unable to move in any direction. We are afraid to make the wrong choice and deal with hurtful repercussions. We fear the outcome either way. If we stay in that one place long enough, that fear can become a quicksand sucking us under.
For lives to move forward and expand, choices are a necessity. So how can we get more comfortable making choices?
When we chose a lifetime here on Earth, we came with an inner guidance system to help us navigate the rocky, steep and gravely roads of it. This personal GPS system is felt as a knowing in the region between the rib cage and belly button. These gut feelings are otherwise known as Intuition. We have been taught to ‘think’ logically through making decisions. Using our ego ran mind as opposed to our inborn, non ego ran, split second decision making, Intuition.
The next time there’s a choice to be made, draw your attention to the feelings that you immediately receive in your gut region. Intuition works so quickly that most miss it. Ask the choice while drawing your spiritual focus to the gut region. The correct choice is the one you feel even before you’ve finished asking the question.
How many times have you made a choice that didn’t work out well, only to look back and say ‘I had a feeling’. It helps to remember that nothing is ever really a wrong choice anyway, just a different direction with its’ own learning experiences. Knowing that can lessen the load of a tough choice.
Alone. It’s always there. The thought of being alone always just whispering at the back of your neck. Fear. Not again, please not again.
Some have been orphaned as infants, some as children and some as adults, some throughout every stage of their lives. For this article though I will stick to the adult stage of our lives since this card points directly to someone losing their partner, their love.
It’s interesting that I pulled this card today because the number is 5 is also today’s universal energy. Five means freedom but everything has a good side and a bad side. Being an orphan would be a freedom brought on in a negative way. Freedom that was forced upon you. Forced freedom going as far as to the negative side of freedom, self enslavement.
Sometimes though, being orphaned by someone is a gift of freedom that is being forced upon us by our higher selves. We may be in a relationship that was draining us of all of our energy, we may have lost who we were by centering our very living existence entirely on the hopes and dreams of another soul. We may have been about to walk down the aisle with someone who was going to cause more harm than good… the list goes on.
Abandonment is a very familiar feeling for me. I have felt abandonment from my closest relatives earlier in life. I am going through a deep loss and abandonment at this very time. When times are low I can feel like the victim of abandonment, but when I raise my thoughts and energy, I feel like I was given gift to be myself from the freedom of this abandonment. I now have time to concentrate and work on the dreams that I’ve always had. And why would I want to remain with a person who couldn’t support my dreams the same way I supported theirs?
How do you look at abandonment? Every thought and feeling carries with it the vibration of energy that it shares. How you allow that energy to make you feel is how you will see yourself in that abandonment.
Who are you? The victim or the conqueror? The Free or the enslaved?
Like the girl in this card, she’s been abandoned by the man she loves in the home she made so warm and comfortable for him. She still she wears the wedding dress, but yet the mask that she wore throughout their relationship is still on.
I was abandoned at my two year wedding anniversary. Or was I was given the freedom to take off the mask that this girl still wears and be myself, maybe follow my own dreams finally?
Freedom is a finicky thing.
The Wisdom of the Oracle
This certainly isn’t the best time for this Moon in my life but Oh heck yes! I’m just sitting here reading blogs on my balcony and I see this come up! I’m thrilled that I finally changed to an iPhone! None of my Android cameras caught this clarity before.
It’s almost full moon in Scorpio 🦂